Monday, July 12, 2010

name, last

I've been married for a month and I still have no idea what to do about my name. Here's where I am:

I like Kirk's name because it's unique and would therefore make me unique. If I ever want to be famous (duh I want to be famous), I would monopolize the name on Google!

I like my name because it's somewhat common. I have a certain amount of anonymity. I never appear in Google searches because there's some writer who has my name, an artist.. I am buried in the depths of Google!

My name is alliterative. His is not.

I have two sets of double letters in my first and last names!

If I were to take his name and have two middle names (original middle and maiden), my initials would be C.N.C.N. Which is cool.

I work in the same small industry as his father. So far I fly under the radar of that, but if I use his last name, the associations would be constant (and possibly problematic).

I want people to know we're married. I like the unification of one name.

I don't want to be Mrs. Kirk Lastname. I know it's traditional etiquette, but it really bothers me. It's devoid of all personal identity and therefore icky to me.

Was changing your name an instant decision for you or something you agonized over?

1 comment:

  1. aaaaaaagonized! oh did I agonize. Someone had told me I didn't have to have it figured out when we went to get our marriage license, but sure enough, there was a blank for "desired surname" on the form -- so I had to make a binding decision then and there! Needless to say, I was not happy. (Though our marriage certificate doesn't really indicate what my new last name will be... ah well.) I ended up just adding his to my three names, and I'll have a compound (but not hyphenated) last name. I couldn't bear to part with any of my names!